In three weeks’ time, I’ll be moving out of halls. I keep saying it, but this year really has flown by. I’ve had an absolute blast and have made some amazing friends, but I’m really looking forward to my four months of summer and then living in our house from September!
With my first year pretty much over, I thought it might be a good idea to share some advice and recommendations for you readers who may be starting uni in September (or who just want a nosy at what my life has been like for the past seven months!). So, today I thought I’d share a few things that I’ve learnt from living in halls this year.
1) Its impossible (and unhealthy) to be friends with everyone
I guess this is probably quite an obvious one really, but naïve me thought that everyone I met at uni would be my friend! Obviously not. I’ve been blessed in that I’ve got on well with all the girls on my corridor, however, that’s not to say that we’re all best friends. Everyone has their own friendship groups, and that’s how it should be. You should find people who are most similar to you and stick with them, that’s how you’ll be happiest in your friendships. This year has taught me that its okay to not be friends with everyone.
2) Cleanliness has many interpretations
This isn’t something I’d ever really considered before this year. My Mum had taught me well how to cook, clean and generally look after myself. However, I didn’t think that other people might do these things differently and have different ‘standards’ (if you could call it that) of cleanliness. Some people prefer things tidy, whilst others like ‘organised chaos’. The most important thing I’ve learnt about this is that it is okay! Everyone is allowed their own different interpretations of cleanliness.
3) Close friendship groups form overnight
I guess this could maybe be a warning more than anything?! Be yourself right from the start, and try to find people most like you during freshers’ week, particularly if you live in halls (like mine) which are not divided into flats. From my own experience, the groups that form during freshers tend to stick together throughout the year at least. However, if you do want to change friendship groups, don’t worry – moving groups is not the be-all and end-all in any way. It can take time to find people who you want to spend all your time with, so don’t worry if you don’t find your new best friends immediately.
4) Be Sociable
This doesn’t necessarily mean that your whole entire hall has to socialise all the time, but it does mean that you should go out of your way to talk to people in halls. Halls are definitely the best place to make new friends as you spend pretty much 24/7 with them, so make sure to make the most of their company! Many people have told me this year that they find living in halls to be quite lonely at times. I have to say, that has yet to happen to me. I think this is because from the beginning of the year, my closest friends and I have always made an effort to spend time together in the evenings which are usually when the loneliness/homesickness could set in. We usually always have tea together, and then watch something online at around 9. More often than not, we end up chatting through the programme, however it is more about having the company!
5) Do what makes you happy
I know, I’m cringing at that too! But to be honest, I reckon the most important thing I’ve learnt from living in halls this year is to be yourself. People are very accepting because at the end of the day, everyone is different. As the saying goes: variety is the spice of life! Whatever makes you happy, put more of it in your life!
There we have it! Five of the most important lessons I’ve learnt from living in halls this year. So whether you’re a fresher with a burning question or have some of your own advice to share, leave a comment below and let’s get the conversation going!
Until next time,